My Aunt Flora was a chain-smoking, cuss-flinging, generous woman who had her share of misery. She was married to my father's brother Arthur, and had three children. Their middle child, my cousin Arthur, died suddenly at the age of seventeen, and after that Auntie Flora was never the same. She lost weight, developed a shake, but continued to curse and shout with the best of them. Before Arthur's death, however, Aunt Flora's second floor tenement apartment was the place to be on a Sunday afternoon when I was a kid, after church. The aroma of tomato sauce bubbling on the stove, enriched with all manner of meat like pig's feet, beef, sausages, made an lasting impression on me and which I came to associate with well-being, abundance and love. To this day I gauge the success of any tomato sauce recipe by how closely it resembles Auntie Flora's. As she lay dying, about 2 years ago, I left her a note she never read, telling her, finally, about how much I loved her sauce and about how Sunday afternoons at her house were some of my best memories of being a kid. I also asked her for the recipe. I left the note on her hospital bedside table. Later, after the funeral, her daughter Beverly, who was a little older than me and with whom I wasn't particularly close (she was closer to my older sister, Joyce), responded.
Dear Rosie,
I saved your note for last because of the special letter you wrote to my Mom. Your letter was written and dated on the day my Mom died and I saw it posted on her bulletin board, and read it after she passed. Your note was very special and heartwarming to me and I will keep it along with some of the other special things I have of my Mom's. Hope the sauce comes out alright. Enjoy it; it should be delicious. ...
I'm a little embarrassed to say I've never tried it; I just know it's good. And I'm sure Aunt Flora didn't use extra virgin olive oil, or fresh herbs, or organic, grass-fed pork, or DOP Parmigiano-Reggiano either. And I wish someday I might get to be the aunt or grandmother all the kids want to visit, whose Sunday dinners they'll remember.
Here is the recipe, so generously shared by Beverly, and which was written in her hand. The comments next to the ingredients are mine.
Auntie Flora's Pasta Sauce
4 large cans Tomato Puree
1 can Tomato Paste (I'm assuming she means one of those small cans)
1 large onion, chopped
4 cloves diced garlic
Olive Oil for sauteing
1 can water (from paste can)
1 tsp. salt
1 tsp. pepper
1 tbsp. sugar
1 tbsp. Italian Seasoning
Meatballs (she doesn't say how many)
Sausage (again, no measurement)
1" pieces of pepperoni sausage, peeled
Parmesan cheese (no amount given)
Brown meatballs, sausage, pepperoni. Put aside.
In a deep large pot, heat the olive oil and saute the garlic and onion together. Add the water. Stir until smooth.
Add the puree plus 3/4 of a puree-can of water.
Add salt, pepper, sugar, seasoning.
When sauce begins to simmer, add meats.
Simmer with cover 1/2 on, stirring frequently for two hours.
During last 1/2 hour, add cheese and stir.
If sauce seems bitter, add more sugar. If sauce is too thick, add a little more water. Sauce should be thick not watery.
Here's to a house full of memorable aromas!


